Maybe I should start this by saying how before our kids, it was so much easier to just get in the car and go for a nice dinner or a walk, just the two of us. I won’t say that, I won’t start that way. This isn’t about having a night out with your significant other. This is about the need of having time to yourself…To myself!
I need a date night with myself. As a mom, wife and working woman, I forget to add “Me” time in my planner. I keep track all everyone’s activities, work schedule, and my schedule. I divide myself in every hour of the day. But I don’t get an hour to myself.
I’m not the only one.
I remember one day I got home from a long night of work at the hospital, got some empanadas at Noches de Colombia so when everyone woke up, they had breakfast. I did laundry, I folded the laundry. Everyone woke up, and they all needed something from me. The day went on and I realized I had been up for 20 hours. By then, it was already dinner time, and I just turned around and said to my husband “Why don’t you take the baby and go get some food at the diner, I’m not hungry”. I don’t know what he saw in my face but he didn’t object to that. He took the baby, my dad and my sister too. I WAS HOME ALONE!
The first thing I did was fill the tub w warm water and bubbles. I put some Alejandro Sanz on my iPhone. I was never so relaxed in my life! I forgot what it was to take a shower without being timed, without any noise, alone. I got out and I took my time changing to my PJs. I walked to the kitchen and I open a bag of Doritos and I sat on the counter and ate them. I opened the refrigerator and drank water from the 1 gallon plastic bottle. No one was there to judge me. It felt so good to have that time to myself!
I turned the TV on in room, and it was on Disney Channel. Couldn’t help but to think of my little one. I press the ‘LAST’ button on the remote and it changed to the History Channel, my husband’s favorite. Then I realized how much I miss my family.
I texted my husband to ask how much longer until they all get back. I was so happy to hear so much noise once that door opened up.
As moms, we shouldn’t deprive ourselves of having time to us and just relax. However, we do what we do because we love our family.
Maybe a time to ourselves is necessary, but our lives will never be completed without the members in our families.
xVal – Sep 2017